Travel for the Soul

because without seeing over your self built fence how do you know how green your own grass grows

Mind, body and soul are important to me and all need attention from yourself to feel balanced and centred. Travel is definitely food for the soul in so many ways. For some travel can be just to head to warmer climate and be surrounded by familiarity. Although I personally wouldn’t call that travelling for the soul some times a change is as good as a break. I’m certainly not snobby about travel which I feel can be common in seasoned traveller circles.

The most cringe worthy for me being a gap year back packer who has stayed in hostels around Australia feeling superior to a family that go to Florida every year. They are both sides of the same coin, both knowing what to expect and unlikely to experience cultural diversity. This is where I see true travel or the part that fills your soul. Experiencing other ways of doing things can only be a positive for personal growth. Being exposed to new cuisine, religions, social graces and fashion all adds to you as a person.

Traveling in and around different cultures has never been more important in a world that is polarising itself day by day. People living in echo-chambers surrounding them self with other opinions that never challenge their own and worse still being offended when any new idea is presented to them. Travel immerses you in alternative ways of living that work for them. Even if the travel only affirms opinions you previously held it has been worth it, because without seeing over your self built fence how do you know how green your own grass grows.

Some advice I would give to the least adventurous out there with regards travel is to always seek the genuine local experience. I’m not saying spend all day every day with your family living like a local but even if it’s an afternoon searching for a local restaurant that wasn’t suggested at your hotel or some markets you passed in the hire car from the airport. Breath it in and remember the experience the people you are mixing with on this occasion are probably never going to get the opportunity to do this in your world.

For me my next travel will be to the Philippines, Cebu island to be exact which prior to booking I had no knowledge of what so ever. The location was picked for me in one way or another but it seems as if it was meant to be as I have had a bucket list adventure to swim with Whale Sharks my whole life, where this is possible in Cebu. My girlfriend and I plan to get a place on the island for a month, she is using the time to work and me…… well I’m not sure. I do know I am now fixed on my years goal I have mentioned in previous blogs, so I will use this time to formulate the strategy on achieving the goal.

For some reason I am reluctant to write what my goal is, I have no idea why that reluctance is within me. It’s not like anyone could jump in my brain and take it nor may they wish to. Maybe its the feeling of putting myself out there on a creative pursuit that has been a long time dream but I have never brought to reality. It could be just insecurities of failure that lie within us all, I am going to have a closer look at myself on why I am so coy around this.

But anyway the ramblings of today are certainly based on happy thoughts, travel is good for you soul, sometimes letting others pick the destination may enhance your own journey and just having the intention of setting a goal with time and effort can create one.

Letting Go

The main point of letting go is the acceptance that who or whatever you are choosing to leave will no longer be part of your future

Most people struggle with letting go because they confuse it with throwing away. Letting go is a conscious thought out process where it a person has decided to remove someone or something from their life. This can take time and is not always a clean break but it doesn’t need to be. The main point of letting go is the acceptance that who or whatever you are choosing to leave will no longer be part of your future.

Throwing away on the other hand is an emotional decision that often is made in haste. Throwing away a person from your life is selling your self short as you do not give your brain sufficient time to deal with the emotions needed to move on.

We do both throughout our lives but trust me you need to recognise the difference between them. Not fully letting go will leave you in an emotional limbo where you are treading water between your future and your past. Anyone who has been through breakups can tell you what loss feels like. But if you are caught in a breaking up making up cycle even though you know the relationship doesn’t make you happy, you are not letting go.

Breaking up can be one of the hardest things to deal with as though it is a psychological input a physical pain can be felt. This is where how you broke up comes into effect. If you have thrown away that person in anger and not dealt with the breakup and let go you will be back together repeating the same cycles in no time at all.

Trust me I have experience in just about every type of break up and non are fun but being caught in a pain cycle is the least fun. When I have let go correctly although pain is still felt ultimately you know you are doing the right thing. Which in turn allows you to accept where you are in life and move on.

Time and Distance

When two people are so in tune with one another that time ceases to exist and distance separates this bond the two people can feel energy loss

This morning I have been thinking a lot on time and distance. How much they affect us and the relationships we hold. Time considered by some to be a concept that and that when most describe time they are actually describing decay. For instance we may say 8 years have passed but that is relative to our planet and describes the natural functions that have occurred on this planet. The first thing that comes to mind is our personal age, but are we just describe our point of decay?

Anyway cleverer people than me have written some interesting stuff on this if you wanted to check it out I would suggest Biocentrism by Bob Berman and Robert Lanza.

We need some way of describing what we perceive as time so I guess what we have works. But it got me thinking on why it goes so quick in moments when you are truly yourself and happy and seems so long when you’re unsettled and unhappy. This is amplified in relationships which almost seems cruel don’t you think? Would we not switch the paradox if we could?

A person close to me describes a lot of this with energies we have, she says that when two people’s energies align the time almost doesn’t exist as you are being your true self. I like her explanation as it can fit into the science theory associated with time. I like when spirituality and science cross over something about this for me is when we get closest to understanding the human condition.

I think this may be the reason distance between two people in relationships can be tricky. When two people are so in tune with one another that time ceases to exist and distance separates this bond the two people can feel energy loss. This is how I describe it of course but some would simply say they are missing one another. I don’t think that is an accurate assessment however because if it was simply missing one another why can other emotions appear such as resentment, anger and insecurities. The theory I have been considering today is in fact these feelings are your body telling you that energy is missing a counterpart.

How to close the distance and supply the energy that person you are away from is something I’m still working on. Any suggestions are welcome on this, finding a way to close that gap that opens would make the world a happier place.

Distance and time combined can make you feel alone and question yourself as a person. This to me is the most interesting part as all of these things are our own emotions and thoughts, we control them. So why do we let ourselves give into time and distance, a lot will be in our self-conscious and beyond immediate control. But I personally am going to try some brain exercises the next time a negative emotion arrives in my body where I sit reflect on that it is me giving myself this thought and not the distance or the time.

Maybe most negative emotions can be conquered by keeping hold of the knowledge that we make ourselves sad and we create anger. Outside inputs only influence our decision-making but how we interpret this input can only rest on our shoulders. I speak as if I am some zen master but in reality this is something I am working on as part of a continuous improvement ethos.