Travel for the Soul

because without seeing over your self built fence how do you know how green your own grass grows

Mind, body and soul are important to me and all need attention from yourself to feel balanced and centred. Travel is definitely food for the soul in so many ways. For some travel can be just to head to warmer climate and be surrounded by familiarity. Although I personally wouldn’t call that travelling for the soul some times a change is as good as a break. I’m certainly not snobby about travel which I feel can be common in seasoned traveller circles.

The most cringe worthy for me being a gap year back packer who has stayed in hostels around Australia feeling superior to a family that go to Florida every year. They are both sides of the same coin, both knowing what to expect and unlikely to experience cultural diversity. This is where I see true travel or the part that fills your soul. Experiencing other ways of doing things can only be a positive for personal growth. Being exposed to new cuisine, religions, social graces and fashion all adds to you as a person.

Traveling in and around different cultures has never been more important in a world that is polarising itself day by day. People living in echo-chambers surrounding them self with other opinions that never challenge their own and worse still being offended when any new idea is presented to them. Travel immerses you in alternative ways of living that work for them. Even if the travel only affirms opinions you previously held it has been worth it, because without seeing over your self built fence how do you know how green your own grass grows.

Some advice I would give to the least adventurous out there with regards travel is to always seek the genuine local experience. I’m not saying spend all day every day with your family living like a local but even if it’s an afternoon searching for a local restaurant that wasn’t suggested at your hotel or some markets you passed in the hire car from the airport. Breath it in and remember the experience the people you are mixing with on this occasion are probably never going to get the opportunity to do this in your world.

For me my next travel will be to the Philippines, Cebu island to be exact which prior to booking I had no knowledge of what so ever. The location was picked for me in one way or another but it seems as if it was meant to be as I have had a bucket list adventure to swim with Whale Sharks my whole life, where this is possible in Cebu. My girlfriend and I plan to get a place on the island for a month, she is using the time to work and me…… well I’m not sure. I do know I am now fixed on my years goal I have mentioned in previous blogs, so I will use this time to formulate the strategy on achieving the goal.

For some reason I am reluctant to write what my goal is, I have no idea why that reluctance is within me. It’s not like anyone could jump in my brain and take it nor may they wish to. Maybe its the feeling of putting myself out there on a creative pursuit that has been a long time dream but I have never brought to reality. It could be just insecurities of failure that lie within us all, I am going to have a closer look at myself on why I am so coy around this.

But anyway the ramblings of today are certainly based on happy thoughts, travel is good for you soul, sometimes letting others pick the destination may enhance your own journey and just having the intention of setting a goal with time and effort can create one.

Letting Go

The main point of letting go is the acceptance that who or whatever you are choosing to leave will no longer be part of your future

Most people struggle with letting go because they confuse it with throwing away. Letting go is a conscious thought out process where it a person has decided to remove someone or something from their life. This can take time and is not always a clean break but it doesn’t need to be. The main point of letting go is the acceptance that who or whatever you are choosing to leave will no longer be part of your future.

Throwing away on the other hand is an emotional decision that often is made in haste. Throwing away a person from your life is selling your self short as you do not give your brain sufficient time to deal with the emotions needed to move on.

We do both throughout our lives but trust me you need to recognise the difference between them. Not fully letting go will leave you in an emotional limbo where you are treading water between your future and your past. Anyone who has been through breakups can tell you what loss feels like. But if you are caught in a breaking up making up cycle even though you know the relationship doesn’t make you happy, you are not letting go.

Breaking up can be one of the hardest things to deal with as though it is a psychological input a physical pain can be felt. This is where how you broke up comes into effect. If you have thrown away that person in anger and not dealt with the breakup and let go you will be back together repeating the same cycles in no time at all.

Trust me I have experience in just about every type of break up and non are fun but being caught in a pain cycle is the least fun. When I have let go correctly although pain is still felt ultimately you know you are doing the right thing. Which in turn allows you to accept where you are in life and move on.

Goal Setting

At the moment life growth is the most important part of this goal, but what that looks like has still to materialise. And thats ok!

Setting goals is very is so January right?

Well for most that’s all it seems to be, I am someone who has always set goals of sorts. Normally they are achievable smaller goals such as a certain amount of gym activity to be reached such as a bench press to be reached or a run time. Or something I kept up with last year of listening to one new album every week to keep me down with the kids, I would actually recommend this as the constant influx of new stimulation certainly had my brain firing.

But this year I want to think bigger, having still yet to quite fully sculpt the idea out of the lump of clay  laid out. The important thing with this analogy is I have the lump of clay, I want a goal of bigger proportion than usual. At the moment life growth is the most important part of this goal, but what that looks like has still to materialise. And that’s ok! Putting pressure or a timescale on something so important could actually hinder this.

I have always been an ideas guy, spouting thoughts to anyone who will listen so turning this potential energy into kinetic energy is the next step. Using the creative side of my brain is important I know this much, in fact this blog is part of my step towards helping increase my creative activity.

So what are you doing together yourself in 2018?

I have set big goals for myself in the past and achieved them so I do have some advice:

  • Split your big goal into smaller achievable chunks
  • Give yourself timescales for each chunk
  • Then work your arse off to complete each one
  • Always keep in mind the long-term Goal

If you miss a target don’t worry as if you are taking small steps it means you are still moving.  An example I can give is when I wanted to pass my International Safety Diploma (Bachelors Equivalent) while still working full-time in a diplomatic role. To look at this as one complete task would be over whelming.  So I broke what it would take to do this and asked myself how can I squeeze the time required into my life. The smallest goal each day would be to fit in 1 hours reading or study, followed by a monthly goal of 25 days within the month of that 1 hour and my 6 month goal would be to finish a module of the study. Before I knew it 2 years had passed and I had graduated, the feeling of goal setting and achieving can not be understated.

Motivation is of course the wind in the sail of any achievement and if you have committed to a goal you are already en route to your destination. How do you stay in the same mind-set and keep the same levels of motivation throughout. I personally have some techniques depending on my goal, I always find it motivating to listen to motivated people. I would have to suggest a couple of podcasts at this point where I draw a lot of motivation from. If my goal is business or career related I find listening to the James Altucher Podcast a godsend due to his array of guests who give so many insights on their versions of success. As I have been wanting to flex my creative muscles of late I have been listening to Adam Buxton who interviews a wide range of performers from authors to actors.

You may know the two people I have mentioned but if you don’t I urge you to take a look I fail to see how these could not add value you to your life. This word value is also very important when achieving goals, spending time on things that don’t add value will affect when and if you achieve those goals. This doesn’t mean drop all the things like your favourite TV show or stop going to support your favourite team. If these are how you recharge you batteries then these are adding value to your life and ultimately your goal. But if you look back on your last two weeks and all of your free time has been spent channel surfing on your sofa, maybe you should ask yourself what value this had added.

The most popular goal I hear being spoke of in January is of course weight loss or fitness based. The same rules apply in regards techniques in my opinion small achievable chunks that lead to your goal. For me fitness has always been an important part of my weekly routine so my fitness goals are less about weight loss more about an activity or achievement. What I will say on weight loss which seems to be rarely spoke about is weight is lost in the kitchen not the gym. Sort your diet out and the weight will fall off, if you are looking for good fat loss results I would take a look at the No Sugar No Grain lifestyle championed by Vinnie Tortorich. If ever I want to lose any pounds I use this lifestyle as it isn’t to restrictive and it WORKS.

I am always trying to improve physically and mentally as a person so if you have any suggestions on goal setting or motivation please get in touch on here or via social media via @siratkinson.