Most people struggle with letting go because they confuse it with throwing away. Letting go is a conscious thought out process where it a person has decided to remove someone or something from their life. This can take time and is not always a clean break but it doesn’t need to be. The main point of letting go is the acceptance that who or whatever you are choosing to leave will no longer be part of your future.
Throwing away on the other hand is an emotional decision that often is made in haste. Throwing away a person from your life is selling your self short as you do not give your brain sufficient time to deal with the emotions needed to move on.
We do both throughout our lives but trust me you need to recognise the difference between them. Not fully letting go will leave you in an emotional limbo where you are treading water between your future and your past. Anyone who has been through breakups can tell you what loss feels like. But if you are caught in a breaking up making up cycle even though you know the relationship doesn’t make you happy, you are not letting go.
Breaking up can be one of the hardest things to deal with as though it is a psychological input a physical pain can be felt. This is where how you broke up comes into effect. If you have thrown away that person in anger and not dealt with the breakup and let go you will be back together repeating the same cycles in no time at all.
Trust me I have experience in just about every type of break up and non are fun but being caught in a pain cycle is the least fun. When I have let go correctly although pain is still felt ultimately you know you are doing the right thing. Which in turn allows you to accept where you are in life and move on.